Αυτή η αντίστροφη εξίσωση αυτοπεποίθησης, αν και ακούγεται απλή, είναι αρκετά δύσκολο να κατανοηθεί και να εφαρμοστεί από τις περισσότερες γυναίκες και ειδικά στην περίοδο που το σώμα τους αλλάζει πιο έντονα από ποτέ. Την περίοδο που ακολουθεί μετά από μια εγκυμοσύνη.
Είναι αλήθεια πως το σώμα αλλάζει, σχεδόν παραμορφώνεται. Η κοιλιά ξεχειλώνει με αποτέλεσμα, σε μερικές περιπτώσεις, να περισσεύει δέρμα. Αναπτύσσεις νέες ραγάδες σε σημεία που δεν είχες. Είσαι φουσκωμένη και ίσως η κυτταρίτιδά σου να έχει αυξηθεί.
Αυτό όμως το σώμα που πολλές γυναίκες αρνούνται να αποδεχτούν είναι το σώμα που έφερε στον κόσμο μια νέα ζωή και γι' αυτόν ακριβώς το λόγο αξίζει να γιορτάζεται.
Έχουμε δει πολλά παραδείγματα γυναικών που δείχνουν το σώμα τους μετά τη γέννα για να εμπνεύσουν κι άλλες γυναίκες να νιώσουν καλά. Πλέον, υπάρχει ένας λογαριασμός στο Instagram, μέσα από τον οποίο, γυναίκες που μόλις έχουν γεννήσει μοιράζονται φωτογραφίες με την κοιλιά τους μετά τον τοκετό, μαζί με δυνατά quotes, συμβουλές και πολλή έμπνευση. Ακολουθώντας το account @takebackpostpartum θα πάρεις τη δύναμη ή -αν θέλεις- την επιβεβαίωση ότι είναι απόλυτα θεμιτό να έχεις μια κοιλιά με ουλές, χαλάρωση, σημάδια και να μη νιώσεις την ανάγκη να κάνεις τα αδύνατα δυνατά για να επιστρέψεις άμεσα στο σώμα που είχες πριν φέρεις στον κόσμο ένα παιδί.
Το αποτέλεσμα είναι πανέμορφο. Δες και μόνη σου.
“Mummy tummy (yes women grow body hair too). Someone recently said to me that I’d be able to get rid of my tummy pouch, I just wasn’t working hard enough, if I exercised more, and if I was stricter with what I ate I’d have a flat stomach again. Although it didn’t upset or affect the way I feel about my body, I believe it needs to be addressed nonetheless. _ My “tummy pooch” is a byproduct of three things- loose skin, an ab separation, and adhesions causing my scar to be pulled inwards (creating a dip.) It has nothing to do with my overall weight. LOTS of mothers wear marks from pregnancy and child birth and i’s a MISCONCEPTION that you can get rid of these marks through diet or exercise. You cannot starve your way to taut skin. Nor can you exercise away indented scars. Yes, you can work towards getting your stomach as flat as possible if that’s what you want, but these unrealistic expectations can be harmful. _ It’s ok to bare the marks of your pregnancy and birth proudly. The same as it’s ok to feel a little bit upset and like a stranger in your new body. It’s human. Learning to accept and love yourself as you are is a process- it’s ok if you’re not quite there yet. It’s also ok to work towards personal body goals, working out and eating healthily to sculpt your body in a particular way doesn’t mean that you have to hate the body you’re in now. On the contrary. It’s all about doing what makes you feel happy and accomplished. _ What is NEVER ok is someone telling you that you should work harder to attain an unachievable body image- so that you might fit THEIR expectations of what the female body should look like. That shit needs to be shut down immediately. If someone can’t accept your postpartum body or encourages you to change any aspect of the way you look because they don’t feel comfortable with it- that is THEIR problem, THEIR issue that needs to be worked on. It ultimately stems from their own insecurities. _ Never allow someone to make you feel bad about your body and never apologise for your body. Your body created life! If that’s not something to be proud of, to be in absolute awe of, then I don’t know what is!” @mamaclog #takebackpostpartum
“I spent Mothers Day blissfully disconnected with all my boys. Instead of posting a done up photo depicting the highlight reel version of motherhood, I wanted to share this picture... because THIS is motherhood. This picture was taken hours after Cash arrived & it shows the reality of how much your mind, body & soul change after bringing life into the world. Stretch marks, saggy skin, exhaustion, a body that will never be the same... but 1000% worth it for the reward I received. To all you beautiful mamas out there rocking the body motherhood gave you!” @mandi_kamp #takebackpostpartum #birthwithoutfear #postpartum #honestmotherhood
Μέρος του ενθαρρυντικού project είναι και η natthenaturalmom για την οποία γράφαμε τις προάλλες.
"Why would I post this picture?You can see all the cellulite on my fat legs. My stomach looks huge, like I am still pregnant. My ankles are so swollen they look like logs. You can see the pad in my unflattering hospital panties. I have no makeup on and my hair hasn’t been brushed in days. _ Why would I post this picture?Because this is postpartum. This is REAL. THIS IS CHILDBIRTH. _ You will not bounce back once that baby comes out of you. You will not “lose the baby weight” super quickly. Your ankles will still be swollen and your belly will still be round. _ And there’s NOTHING wrong with that. You just brought a baby into the world. Whether you had a vaginal birth or a c-section, a child emerged from your body and that’s a HUGE deal! _ I asked my husband to take this photo because it was the first time I stood up in days and the first time I held my baby all by myself, without wires connecting me to a bed. This moment was so beautiful, I got to sway side to side while holding the life I sustained for 9 months. _ I didn’t care that my robe was open and you could see my chunky legs or the ugly hospital panties. All I cared about was that I was a mother now; and that I was head over heels in love with this little human. _ I’m still not happy with my body and I still have days where I look in the mirror and whisper “ugh, this is what I look like now” under my breath. I am not happy with how my body looks but I am immensely grateful for what it has done. It grew a life out of a few cells. It labored for 26 hours and it was opened on a table to bring that life into this world. _ I share this photo because it’s REAL, beautiful, and in this moment I felt LOVE and happiness." @natthenaturalmom #birthwithoutfear #takebackpostpartum
"Well, I know a lot of you guys are probably thinking 'why would she post this picture', but, it took me 18 months to get here, 18 months to not cry when I look in the mirror, 18 months to finally feel beautiful in my own skin again! No one warns you about the dark sides of motherhood and pregnancy.. no one gives you a heads up on how much you change physically and mentally after you become a mother. It's been a long and hard postpartum ride for me.. 18 months after my first son and 5 months after my second son I feel like I can finally see the light and it genuinely feels amazing. Cheers to you mamas who are battling postpartum depression and still getting up everyday for your children! Cheers to you mamas who still cry about the marks on your skin from birthing your perfect babies! Cheer to motherhood, cheers to knowing that this too shall pass! And things will get better." @alexandrabrea_ ©2017 by Alexandra Kilmurray All rights reserved _ #motherhood #postpartum #postpartumdepression #babies #takebackpostpartum
"Comment with a if you have any of the following: stretch marks, cellulite, a mama pooch, a papa pooch, just yer average pooch, a six pack, long legs, short legs, a big butt, a teensy butt, an in-between butt, muscles, fat anywhere on your body, dark-toned skin, light-toned skin, ANY TONE OF SKIN COLOR, a lot of facial hair, no facial hair, one arm - or two (or three!), birth marks of any kind, scars of any kind, freckles, eyelashes, a neck, etc, etc, etc. My point? ALL OF THE ABOVE - AND MORE - PHYSICAL CHARACTERISTICS THAT UNIQUELY MAKE UP YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL, LOVABLE, & WORTHY OF RESPECT, ACCEPTANCE, AND (YOU GUESSED IT!) LOVE. There is nothing you need to lose or change or limit EXCEPT the beliefs that keep you thinking you are ONLY of value when you are losing & changing & limiting. YOU WERE BORN INTO WORTHINESS, MY LOVES. You are awe-some for existing in the body you have - and guess what the coolest part is? YOU DON’T EVEN HAVE TO LOVE YOUR BODY RIGHT NOW TO ATTAIN THAT WORTHINESS. You can show up with as much body-hating baggage as I did after I birthed my daughter in 2015. All that is needed is the willingness - if even for a single moment in your day! - to believe in something DIFFERENT." @thelindsaywolf #postpartumbody #takebackpostpartum
"To all the women today who are mamas - you are stunning. Wear your stripes proudly. May our daughters only hear us speak positively about our bodies and how they’ve changed because we carried them. May they be raised in households where they are delighted in, celebrated, and cherished always and not based on their outward appearance. Speak life into their hearts." @jenn.newm #postpartum #postpartumbody #takebackpostpartum
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